How can you ask a family member to accompany you to counseling for abuse when she thinks you are making big deal about the way her family is treated by her husband?
We are all individuals in our own right and we all take action differently regarding the area of abusive relationships or any other major problems in our lives. Most abused women are in denial or simply terrified and some prefer whatever security they can get from their abuser rather than leave the situation. You can't make a victim go for help and they have to find their own path. As painful as it is for you to handle, the best thing to do is stop harassing the victim and start listening. If you listen you can offer some advice, but once you hound the victim to seek further help they will just clam out and you will be left out in the cold. At least if you are there, they can trust you and you are more aware of any serious developments such as physical beatings of the victim. What can you do if this should occur? If you are witness to the act then you can report the abuser to the police and YOU can press charges. Good luck Marcy